Partnering with the Shadow Self
- mathewrhyswalker
- Sep 22, 2024
- 4 min read
Partnering with the Shadow Self
Aligning and Acknowledging
In order to fully partner with your Shadow Self you need to take the previous steps first, beginning with the idea of "Aligning to your Shadow/Lower Self", this enables you to have an awareness of a deeper, more hidden part of yourself that motivates a lot of your emotional reactions to the world around you. It allows you to begin to walk a more balanced path within yourself and the world.
You need to also acknowledge the "Needs" of your Shadow Self, this is not just healing, it is the carnal desires, certain foods, certain activities that bring about pleasure, it is having faith in your psychic impressions regarding your environment and also interactions with other people. This information can be found on my previous blog about "Aligning with the Lower Self".
Healing
Healing is an integral part of Shadow work, you cannot endeavour to just buddy up with the Shadow Self, it has business first, it cannot find or provide peace to your conscious mind while carrying traumas and turmoil, so you need to make a conscious effort to begin healing your Shadow Self first.
It is entirely up to you how you plan to schedule these Shadow healing spells, around Moon cycles, certain memories, certain years of age, or even by categorising an emotion a month and seeing what unfolds. Read my blog on "Healing the Shadow Self" for some additional inspiration to what you may have already had in mind.
Partnering
In order to make a fully conscious decision to partner with the Shadow Self, it is a good idea to formalise this intention in a magickal way, by means of a journey, declaration and a promise to the Shadow Self. To perform this journey you will need to do this on a Dark Moon, this is the time before the New Moon, when there is no light in the sky.
Have before you:
A black candle (Ideally cleansed)
Flameproof vessel, and a charcoal disc
Loose herbs to burn - Lavender, Sandalwood, Jasmine, Sage
A piece of paper
A black pen
Write down on the paper the following:
"I, (name), Declare before the Universe/God/Goddess,
That I intend to fully,
Align, integrate and partner with,
My hidden, deep Shadow Self,
To heal all wounds,
To walk in power,
To walk in peace,
Harming none,
So mote it be"
Place it near the cauldron/vessel, relax yourself with a meditation before hand, and when you feel ready ignite the charcoal safely, pour the loose herbs until some smoke is released, then place them next to the vessel and ignite the candle. Recite the above prayer and when you feel ready, perform the following meditation:
"Meditation to Partner with the Shadow Self"
Get comfortable and visualise in your mind the cosmic world tree, this can be oak, willow, pine, or any tree you have a connection with, just see it reaching up to the heavens and know its roots burrow deep into the heart of this gorgeous Earth. In your visualised journey, see yourself finding an opening and squeeze yourself into it, feel yourself begin to slide, or crawl, or move gradually down into the root system of the tree until you arrive in the deep, dark, moonlit Underworld.
Take in the sight of the Moon, stars, the gentle breeze, the stillness of what feels like perpetual midnight, your very own experience of the Witching hour. Call out to your Shadow Self and begin to journey through the landscape until you discover a human-like figure, when you feel ready approach them and converse.
Firstly, apologise for the neglect you have given this part of yourself, then acknowledge the impressions and sometimes inappropriate emotions and behaviour from the Shadow Self seeking your attention, make peace with this part of yourself. Now is the time, to make that promise, that if you break one day, you only break yourself, now promise to, to the best of your ability, vow to acknowledge bodily needs, emotional needs, psychic impressions and other signs from the Shadow Self as you agree to partner and journey together in life going forward. As one unit with three parts, including the Higher Self.
You may then share a hug with your Shadow Self, you may see you both merge into one being, or it may literally stand at your side and give you a hand, when you have enjoyed and acknowledged this partnering, you can now give gratitude to the Shadow Self and begin to journey back, your Shadow Self will remain in the Underworld, governing and sharing this realms gifts, it is simply that you have agreed to be a whole unit in a broader sense.
Give your gratitude also to the dark Underworld for allowing your presence, begin to journey up through the roots of the World Tree, release yourself from this sacred space and see yourself back where you started. When you are ready, give thanks to the World Tree and return your awareness to the room. You may burn your intention slip and leave your candle burn down. Write down your experience and any advice or messages your Shadow Self gave you.
Going forward you will feel different from day to day, emotions feel more intense, psychic impressions are more reliable, your cravings will not be a nuisance but a signal from your Shadow Self. Enjoy this journey together.
Blessed Be, Mat. XxX
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